Balance in sobriety can be broken down into five areas of concern or that need attention: relationships, recovery, mental health, vocation, avocation, self care and spirituality. There’s a chance you are out of balance when one key or area within a group overshadows the rest.
We have friendships, family and romantic relationships. If we spend all of our time with our family, then our friendships may suffer. We love our family, but we also need the balance a friendship offers, such as new ideas, camaraderie, perspective, someone to bounce things off of, and love. Likewise, if we spend too much time with our friends, then our family may feel neglected. When we fall for someone romantically, we might want to spend all of our time with them. Without balance, our family seldom sees us, and we them. Our friends think we no longer care about them. Through simple balance with relationships we can enrich our lives, feel and give love.
Recovery has been termed selfish, and to some degree it is, but we can set limits. Our family went through a lot while we were active with an addiction. It may take time for them to trust us again. Balance requires that we show up for them, tend to their needs as well as our own. A ten minute call to a friend in a fellowship program can do wonders for our spirits as well as allow for some quality time with our spouse and family. If we have to depend on seven meetings a week for months on end, chances are we may not be doing the necessary and hard work of change.
In terms of balance, maintaining healthy, sober living requires that we take relapse prevention seriously. Think about self care. Walks are good for us as well as regular exercise. To attain a good balance with self care, we need nutritious food, a good night’s sleep, personal hygiene and giving up habits, such as smoking, that can harm our body and cause life threatening illness.
Mental health is paramount to managing a balanced lifestyle in sobriety. We need to attend to both the joyful and the painful places inside, behaviors that no longer work for us, coping strategies and setting good boundaries. Part of maintaining mental health is the balance of work, play and time for avocations and any spiritual calling we might have. Keep breathing, and recognize we’re bound to overshoot the marker from time to time. When we do, we can learn to be gentle with ourselves and let the pendulum swing back to a steady rhythm.
“The major work of the world is not done by geniuses. It is done by ordinary people, with balance in their lives, who have learned to work in an extraordinary manner.”― Gordon B. Hinckley
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