Low self-esteem can add to the malaise of addiction. When we get sober our low self-esteem doesn’t automatically disappear. It can retreat behind any euphoria we might feel upon our new found freedom from alcohol, but it still exists. As we begin the arduous task of healing from addiction, low self-esteem may show itself again.
In new sobriety we might feel miserable about being an alcoholic. We can learn about the disease, and gain greater understanding as to why we couldn’t stop our alcohol craving. Somewhere along the continuum of our recovery we will come to accept our disease. We can then open ourselves to self inquiry and change. Changing our behaviors, attitudes and the way we view ourselves is an essential dynamic for lasting recovery.
The inherent inequality projected onto girls and women can play a part in low self-esteem. Yet, there are more reasons for low self-esteem whether you are a woman or a man. The source of low self-esteem can be derived from childhood neglect, incest, physical or sexual abuse, bullying, unsupportive parents, and lack of proper care. Facing these particular possibilities for our low self-esteem is best done in the safety of a trusted therapist’s office.
We can begin to chip away at our low self-esteem by repeating to ourselves, I am enough! Because really, we are enough. We became addicted to alcohol, and we are now sober! Good for us! We are doing the best we can with what we have. Good for us! We can make gains in our behavior and then have setbacks, and we are still enough. We are not perfect, but we are enough.
By constantly repeating to ourselves, I am enough, new neural pathways can created. Neural pathways connect relatively distant areas of the brain or nervous system. If some of the pathways are damaged, new ones can be formed. This is good news for survivors and those healing from low self-esteem. The more we repeat our mantra, I am enough, the clearer our pathway will become. Hence, it will be easier for our brain to transform to a new belief system— I am enough!
“It’s not just a question of conquering a summit previously unknown, but of tracing, step by step, a new pathway to it.”— Gustav Mahler
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