Start by visualizing the aspects, character, personality, strength or whatever you want to see in yourself. Just close your eyes and create this new image of yourself. When you are out and about town or in the office, bring this image to mind. Think about how you would like to handle the different situations you confront everyday.
Write an affirmation. An affirmation is a positive statement you say to yourself. Look in the mirror and read it outloud to yourself. No making faces! Believing in your affirmation is a positive step to enhancing self confidence. Your affirmation might read something like: I’m safe, secure, protected and loved, now and always. I am able to handle anything that comes my way.
Many people in recovery have a committee in their head. The committee consists of the judge and the jury, and functions to derail your self confidence. When you find yourself paying attention to the committee, take a breath. Tell the committee you no longer need or want them to judge or second guess you.
When fear arises and you find your self confidence flailing, stop and ask yourself if your fear is realistic. Is it an old fear that holds you in chains? Managing fear isn’t easy, but you can try to move beyond the fear by naming the thing that scares you. For example, I am afraid of what my friends will think or say about to me after I leave rehab and return home. One trick to increase self confidence in a situation like this, is to turn around the focus of your self-imposed story. Better to be the one being gossiped about, than the one doing the gossiping! Humor works.
You’re in recovery and have a thousand things on your mind. Set a few realistic and manageable goals for yourself each week. They can be as simple as, getting the dog’s license at the town or city hall, showing up for work 10 to 15 minutes early, or buying groceries before the refrigerator is empty. Helping another in need, undertaking projects, and learning something new can also do wonders for building self confidence. Keep track of your goals and acknowledge all that you have accomplished. It works, if you work it!
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”—Arthur Ashe
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