Chances are, before you began recovery, your central focus was on how, when or where you were going to drink or get high. You were in a relationship with the substance, and that came first. People, friends, family and colleagues barely showed on your radar screen, let alone how you communicated with them. Now that you are in recovery you have the opportunity to mend yourself and your relationships through better communication.
You maybe excited and have a lot to say about your recovery. People are interested, especially those in meetings or group therapy sessions you attend. Learning to be a good listener will not only help you, but the person to whom you choose to listen. By listening to them they will think you care. This will inherently make them feel better. Listening to others brings the focus off number one—you. This is is not meant as a mean statement, but rather as a reminder there’s work ahead. You may learn something from listening. Listening to others can also help you build empathy.
Empathy is a good thing in recovery because it helps deepen your connections with others. Empathy isn’t about pity or feeling sorry for someone. It is about putting yourself in their situation. Consider the advances in societal controversies if groups with opposing points of view learned to be empathetic! You can’t change the world, but you can change yourself.
Good communication skills require you to relate an idea or observation with clarity. Miscommunication can lead to an altercation, a missed opportunity or plain ole bad feelings. You don’t need that in recovery. The old adage, think before you speak, is a good tool to practice.
Another communication skill that helps in recovery is being friendly. This may be hard at first. You may feel particularity vulnerable as you begin recovery. Feelings of shame and guilt can be overwhelming and cause you to withdraw at work, school, home or in social situations. Being friendly can be a challenge that produces rewards. You have to muster courage to be friendly. Being friendly can boost your confidence. It may seem like a no brainer, but if your are friendly to someone, chances are they will reciprocate. “Wow, I made a new friend I can talk about this stuff with.” People in recovery need new friends.
Lastly, it’s a good idea to pay attention to how you communicate nonverbally. Your posture or tone of voice can alter someone’s perception of what you are trying to convey.
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