Dating as a recovering love addict is possible. Your past does not have to determine your future. You deserve healthy love and relationships. Acknowledging your history of love addiction is an important first step when considering dating again.
A date does not always mean forever. Dating is a great way to get to know another person. You can look at dating as a way to learn how your romantic interest treats others, what they value and how they will treat you in the long run. Even if you date someone for a while, this does not mean that you are a match made in heaven. Time is the best way to judge a person’s character. A first date does not let you see the person for who they actually are. Be patient and get to know the person. Journal your dating experience so that you can reflect on them later and decide how far you want to go in this new relationship.
Set reasonable expectations of yourself and others. Have established goals of who you want to be in this relationship. You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness. Try to remember that the person you are dating is not perfect and will not be able to give you everything that you desire. Do your best to communicate your needs to your romantic interest and also listen to what they may need.
Have defined personal boundaries. Some people find it helpful to write down their boundaries. Know and be comfortable with refusing to tolerate physical or emotional abuse. Try to remember that you are valuable and it is okay to stop dating someone if you feel disrespected.
The best way to know if you are ready to date is to be aware of your mental wellness. Do you feel ready? Do you have a support system in place for times when you feel weak or are unsure of yourself? If you have an established support system, have begun the healing process and are aware of your strengths and weaknesses, then you are ready to take the challenge of dating again.
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