Each day you abstain from substance abuse gives you a new beginning full of opportunities. As you move out into the world, your confidence can lack behind. You can be dealing, not only with addiction, but other diagnoses as well. Learning to advocate for yourself increases your strength of character.
Building self-confidence is a process. The sister to self-confidence is self-advocacy. Women who’ve suffered trauma, as well as women in general, have been inculcated to give in to a man’s perspective, judgment, decisions and rules. Despite women’s progress since the sixties, this precept still pervades today in personal, professional and everyday relationships and encounters.
How do you overcome the fear of standing up for yourself? You can prepare your justifications, say, for a raise, ahead of time. Make a list of your goals? What are your needs, too? Do you want to be treated fairly and equally? Do you want your opinions respected? You don’t want to be talked down to or patronized do you?
You can practice self-advocacy everyday with the men and women in your life, with the mechanic, a store clerk, your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend. Practicing involves self-talk, I have nothing to lose. My world is not going to fall apart if I hem and haw. Even if I back down, I’m still stronger than I was, because I made a sincere effort.
Advocating for yourself requires clarity, honesty and directness. If you want to advocate for yourself in a certain situation, make sure you are being honest with yourself. Is this really the reason I want such and such? Getting down to the truth will fortify your delivery. When your course of action is genuine, no matter the outcome, you can feel good about yourself and your self respect will be fortified as well.
When advocating for yourself, plan to get right to the point. Circling the subject, or point you want to make, can weaken your self resolve and limit your success. Believe in yourself, in your rights, desires and needs. Practice, not perfection!
“Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” —Louisa May Alcott
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