Now that you’ve made the commitment to become substance free you’re wondering why you have so much angst and stress. You want to hang out with your old gang of friends, but have been advised against it. Listening to this kind of solid advice is keeping you substance free. At the same time, you feel isolated and lonely. You’ve joined a fellowship group, but haven’t made any friends in those gatherings.
An action you can take to assuage your feeling is practicing patience. Give your recovery some time. You may still have reservations about a meeting’s effectiveness, but begin to understand something good might come from them. You might find something somebody says clicks with you. One evening, someone might reach out to you in a friendly manner, like asking if you want to sit with him or her or have coffee later. Learning patience can help ease discontentment.
Then there are holidays where everyone, it seems, celebrates, picnics, vacations, and parties. You feel left out because you no longer imbibe in harmful substances, and can’t imagine attending an event without one. The holidays make you are angry with everyone. You’re angry with your friends and family for being able to have fun, and angry at yourself for having this wretched disease.
Anger is a normal emotion, but in excess it can be detrimental to both your mental and physical health. Depending from where your anger stems, it can be legitimate. Facing the roots of anger can be hard in early recovery. You owe it to yourself to address your anger with a counselor or therapist, so that it doesn’t fester, inflame and cause you further pain.
Shame is another big reason why early recovery can be difficult. Before you got into recovery, you may have done things like lying to others, and yourself, hurting someone emotionally or physically, or even acted outside the law. Being substance free is like airing out the cellar. The acts you kept hidden, denied or couldn’t see their destructive course, come into light. They need to be dealt with, and it’s not easy. With patience, time, willingness to change, and learning to be kind to yourself, your discomfort in early recovery can meld into acceptance.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”—Maya Angelou
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