Because of the nature of survival mode in conjunction with denial, acknowledging you are in it can be challenging. Somewhere in your psyche, however, you know that your behavior isn’t normal. Tell yourself that your heightened reactions and craziness are not normal and are unhealthy. Tell yourself the speech on being positive, you’d give to a friend, who appears to be in the same situation.
Accept your state of mind, and consider the damage it’s doing to your physical and mental health. Acknowledge that things may not get better overnight, but you can make the changes you need to regain control over yourself first, and then tackle the situation. Understand, also, that you can’t control everything in life, and it’s not your job either. The Serenity Prayer reminds us to accept the things we cannot change, change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Complaining about your situation will not help matters. Ok, take a walk, rant and rave, then stop, breathe. You’ve got it out of your system, well mostly. You feel a bit better, now stop it. Cesar Millan, the dog trainer, employs a calm and assertive approach that works. Rather than complain and beat yourself up, think about being calm and assertive with your actions.
Think about any mistakes you might have made because you’ve been overwhelmed, sleep deprived and super stressed. Spilt milk can’t go back in the bottle, but you can regain your bearings. As with the Serenity Prayer you can ask, to change the things you can.
No matter how much sobriety and therapy you have had, you are bound to find yourself in survival mode from time to time. Blaming the company, yourself, whatever or whomever for causing the catastrophe that has landed you in here, will not help. Take responsibility and forgive yourself for overreacting, for rude behaviors, for lack of self care, for not getting to fellowship meetings. These are important and necessary steps for regaining your composure and self respect. You are only capable of doing what you can. Given the circumstances, you did your best. You did!
“Owning your story is the bravest thing you can do.”—Brene Brown
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