You’ve made a significant transition from the control an addiction had over you, to being in recovery. Substance addiction may still have its claws in your brain, but each day you sustain from using, lessens its hold. People in fellowship programs like AA and NA reflect and celebrate their strength by acknowledging benchmarks like, one day, one week, 30 day, 90 days, and every continuing year.
As your anniversary approaches, it’s important to reflect upon your huge accomplishment. Chances are, you’ve changed, too, so include the changes you’ve made in your reflections. There’s not always time enough in the day to reflect, but perhaps during the weekend you can take a walk in the park, on the beach or by a lake—wherever you feel safe and relaxed. Being alone when you reflect, can provide the freedom and space to allow good feeling about yourself to flow through you.
Taking time to reflect allows you to see yourself for who you really are, and to can look at the ways you might unintentionally be suffering. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
Reflection makes it easier for you to learn from your own mistakes. When one avoids looking at themselves, they can thwart the inner peace and contentment that comes from sobriety.
Feeling good about ourselves and what we’ve accomplished can engender additional motivation. Maybe it’s time to volunteer at the local food pantry, soup kitchen, Habitat for Humanity, or an environmental group. Reflection may bring up areas of your life in which you want to improve. Your kids and or spouse may have felt neglected while an addiction took over your sensibilities. You may feel guilty about the past, and the fact that you now have meetings and therapy you need to attend.
Use your reflection time to consider and plan simple gestures that can help your loved ones regain trust in you and to feel your love for them. We say simple gesture, because a grand gesture can be construed as bribing or disingenuous. Whatever the gesture, like a box of cookies from the bakery, or tickets to the next big superhero movie, rest assured, behind it will be a record of your intention. You’ve done well, you’re on your way toward another milestone everyday you choose sobriety.
“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” – Ram Dass
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